Isn't this a struggle for everyone? I hope not, but in all honesty it's a daily struggle for me. I'm thinking about making this kind of a series because my last post was kind of like this, just another thing i've been going through, and I feel like this is another one that I want to share with you guys.
Is it just me, or does it seem like every week there's something I'm being left out of, not invited to, or just something like not even being acknowledged when in a group. It's mainly been a struggle for me because basically, I go to a fine arts school where middle schoolers and high schoolers are sometimes around each other, and because I've danced for so long, I'm in the high school dance class, I've been in most of the high school shows the past few years, and honestly have known these high schoolers since I was about 9-10. At this point, I am so close to them because they are my second family. But my best friend moved up a class this year, which means now she's in high school, and I'm left behind in eighth grade. Even though I act like a high schooler, i'm not allowed to be in high school.
This is such a struggle for me, I don't think anyone has any idea. I'm constantly being left out of everything. I know that's probably not true, but it feels so much like that it's hard to not think about.
This year has been hard as it is, with a lot of other stuff going on. But this makes it even harder. I mean, you have to think to yourself "How can I fix this?" and there really is no way. I mean, you can always try to make yourself prettier or more popular but that will get you no where.
I mean, we all know how it feels to be bored and then see photos of all your friends on Instagram hanging out without you. It hurts. You didn't get invited. They didn't think of you. Etc, etc. You can't blame this on yourself, it's their fault that they don't want to invite you for some odd reason.
But just remember through this, Find good friends. Find friends that WILL invite you. Find friends who will support and love you through whatever you are going through. Find friends who send texts to you just to see how you are. Find YOUR group.
-Izzy
Oh wow, I remember feeling this way so vividly.
ReplyDeleteIt's so hard, but it does get easier to find friends the older you get or at least that's what I'm learning. Stay strong, friend <33
Right? It's such a strong feeling its hard to forget.
DeleteI definitely have a large friend group, it's just hard sometimes ;) Once I'm in high school, I think honestly i'll be fine haha. This time is just a harder time. <3<3
-Izzy
Aw hunny, I relate to these feeling so much and I might be twice your age ;). My biggest bit of advice is to do the things that you need to do to love yourself, because your opinion of yourself is so much more important than anyone else's in the entire world, and when you exude that self love and confidence, those feelings that you send out into the world will be returned to you. Full disclosure: I'm still working on this. Sending you love! <3
ReplyDeleteThat's so true Kym. Definitely working on that. Thank you so much!!
ReplyDeleteThank you for stopping by!
-Izzy
Aw Izzy, I was just thinking about this yesterday. For me it's more not being acknowledged in a group, or even if it's just my friend and myself, and I'm kind of in the shadows and no one notices me. I agree with what Kym said. Your opinion of yourself is more valuable than what anyone else thinks, so love yourself, girl!! I know it's really hard sometimes, but we'll get there, and you are SO right about picking the right friends. Lots of love! <3
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Right? I feel like people notice me, but at the same time, I feel like they don't. I literally know that I am cared about and loved but I STILL struggle with this. Definitely. You have to pick the right friends, the wrong ones can send you down such a bad path. <3<3<3
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-Izzy
Wow! Thank you for sharing this! I often used to feel left out with certain groups, I just never felt like I fitted in, as I have got older I definitely have made much better friends and ones that will last for a long time!
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